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9/27/2008 5:46 AM
Pamela Ware
<h4>Hello<font size="4">,</font></h4> <p>&nbsp;</p> <h4>I am a 39 year old divorced mother of two teenage sons, ages 13 and 17 who are the light of my life. My cancer story began when I was just 4years old. I was diagnosed with Wilmns Tumor. I had my left kidney,L.adrenal gland,spleen and appendix removed because the cancer had spread. I received chemotherapy and then radiation to the chest after a reoccurence in my lungs. I remember attending the first day of kindergarten and getting teased because I had no hair, I refused to wear a wig because it itched my head. I eventually became in the all-clear but still had yearly checkups at Children's Hospital in Columbus, Ohio until I turned 18.</h4> <h4>During my childhood, my mother developed breast cancer and had to have a mastectomy and chemotherapy. When I was 18, she had a reoccurence and found that the cancer had returned to her bones. I helped take care of her. She fought a hard and courageous fight, but succumbed the the cancer in 1993. I was married at this point, and had a 2 year old son. In 2000, while taking a shower, I felt a hard lump in my breast. I immediately went to my family Dr. who sent me for a mammogram ASAP. It turned out abnormal and a biopsy was scheduled. At the age of 29, I remember waking up, still groggy from the anethesia to hear the news that I had breast cancer. Because of my mother and my childhood cancer, I had a bi-lateral mastectomy. I then received chemo, and lost my hair again. At this time, I had a 3 year old son and my oldest son was in the 3rd grade. My marriage fell apart, my husband chose to leave us and assume another relationship with a woman he worked with. After about a year of again, seeming to be in the all clear stage, I went back to school and began working full time to support my boys. During this time I could not obtain health insurance, my job did not have a good plan and I was turned down. I went for atleast 4 years without health insurance, finding myself in this &quot;gray area&quot; where I was just at the cut-off point to receive Medicaid, I had no choice but to work and continue looking for a job that had a good health insurance plan. Finally in 2006, I found a decent job with benefits. I made an appointment for a check up with my family Dr. I mentioned to him about 2 small sub-cutaneous nodules on the back of my neck, about the size of a pencila erasor. I had them for a while, but thought they couldn't be too serious. I had a biopsy to remove them, even the surgeon who did the biopsy thought they were just harmless nodules. I remember the day I was told my cancer had returned, I was totally shocked. I had just gotten off work and went to the surgeon's office for a follow up visit. He said that the nodules contained breast cacncer cells and I needed to get in ASAP to my oncologist, which I promptly did. I have since switched Dr.'s after a second opinion. My original oncologist made sure to mention in his notes that I did not follow up as I should have, which left me feeling terribly guilty, but I owed him money as I was trying to go along as self pay for 4 years, what was I supposed to do? I could hardly make ends meet. Well, enough of the blame game, I do not hold him responsible for my reoccurence, even though I sometimes feel I have been cursed. My new oncologist, as of 07/07 put me through many tests, CAT scans, PET scan, etc. I was told I have Stage 4 Breast cancer that has metastisized to my bones-what a really horrible coincidence, the same as my mother. I was put on Aromasin and Zometa for a year. Just this week, I was told that the cancer has worsened and that the medication was no longer working. I just finished 2 full weeks of radiation and now am trying Faslodex, it is the only drug left to try before chemo. The only way I could obtain health insurance was to go on disbility. I tried to work up until October of last year but my lower back pain was unbearable. My insurance was only valid if I worked part time. I really need to bring positive changes into my life. I am so depressed, I know I have to put up a great fight, even though I feel so tired. It really helps to know that I am not alone and there are many who are fighting this diesease along with me.</h4>

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Tori was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma in April 2003. Attending college away from home, she traveled to all of her appointments alone, including a lengthy drive each month to see a specialist. Toni’s health and emotional well-being deteriorated, and she returned home to recover. On her arrival, she cared for her sister, who suffers from MS, and began working at a daycare facility. Tori found within herself a sense of empathy and determination she didn’t realize she possessed before her diagnosis, and she continually strives to instill all she’s gained in others. Read Tori's story and more at The Voices of Survivorship.

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